ok so my father and i probably have the worst relantionship ever!?

I live in the suburbs but I couldnt stand living here that when I was 18 I actually put myself in a girls home. After 4 months I couldn’t take it and decided to come back home. My dad and I have never gotten along. I dont want to tell a sob story and make you feel bad for me, but his attitude towards me has gotten really bad lately. He ignored me completely at Thanksgiving dinner, he’s been so bogus to me that my cousin just told me that my mom went by my aunts house and confessed to her that she doesnt understand why my dad picks on me that shes afraid Im gunna run off with some guy just to get away from home and all this personal stuff. Im 19 and he doesnt seem to understand that I want some freedom, I am in college and Im not a wild person at all. So I dont understand why he hates me. Trust me when I say that I am not overeacting, everyone in my family sees it and it embrasses me. When my truck broke down I called home 50 times and nonone answered they were sleeping it was black friday and i was on my way to work at 4 am so it expected im not complaining. What got me was when my dad finally answered 5 hours later i started telling him how my car broke down and im cold (im in chicago and its winter) well before i even finished he hangs up on me and leaves me there for 2 more hours, finally a friend comes and gets me. Now my mom today gave me the ulimatium i can either quit my job and work for my dads resturant 13 hours a day 6 days a week or i can take my sh!t and keep my job on my way out the door. Thats what i need help with! where will i go, If i dont work for them i will be kicked out trust me and idk im just really numb to everything i just wish i could go away to france and lose contact with my dad whos nothing but an a$$hole to me

ps sorry for the spelling mistakes

I am so sorry to hear this.
My Dad and I were the best of friends until his death in 1990.
It sounds as if your Dad really wished that you were a boy.
Some fathers have this thing about wanting sons to play ball with, throw back a couple of beers or just goof around with.
Some men also feel less of a man if they have a daughter instead of a son.
As for your Mom, she’s a little resentful of you for being the person she wish you could be (independent with a mind of your own).
Don’t let them give you an ultimatum, just move on.